magicalhearts29
Hi I am 36yrs old unmarried independent girl ….. I tried to find a partner in arrange marriage setup but failed miserably as I always believe that I disclose my medical condition before the boy n his family in advance about my thyroid pcod n stress issues …. But everytime I am judged on these parameters and I am fat also . Also I love a boy and I knw him from past 8 yrs now …. We both wish to marry but my family is not ready for the relationship as the guy is not financially stable as he is living on rent . His family has the struggles as his elder brother is divorced. My father is not even ready to meet the guy n his family once …… They have set an image and assumptions that the guy and his family don’t meet their expectations as I belong to upper middle class background and he is frm middle class. My parents say this is the age of compromise but they are not ready to compromise where my happiness is ….. All I feel is now either I marry him or not at all as ppl judge a lot nobody accepts me the way I am. Sometimes I feel I shoul go for court marraige and take the step . Is loving someone with whom thoughts matches n u have understanding is crime . Pls suggest I am fed up and have come to a point of frustration in life .
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poor-bear348
Ur now 36 when I became 50 you will think I should take that step for ur love at 36 so live ur life no one will give u love like partners love
Nishat
Absolutely it's not a crime to l9ve someone, take the step you wish for yourself and happiness, unless you won't feel regret in future for the same. Also parents will be fine when they see you happy, if thier concern is about your stability and your happiness. Dbt worry things will go well just be strong enough to take the step. All the best baba.
clean-opossum786
You should definitely marry him!! Money matters but happiness too.. if u know u are gonna be happy, he is the one, he loves you deeply, you both can manage ups and downs and still be happy with each other.. then why not him? Parents ko mnao dont give up.. tell them this is the age of compromise but i wont have to compromise if i marry the guy i love!! All the best
courageous-meerkat167
Dont give up , if you give up now you will regret later in your advanced age so its better to marry the person you love , parents ko manau , thoda time lagega but they will ultimately agree and ask the person to search for a better job so that you can show his resolve to your parents so that manane mai asani hogi Paise dono sath milke bhi kama sakte h
Anonymous
Dost honestly speaking the guy u love is not a good deal. Jahan finance stable na ho, mat jaao wahan pe, I m telling u kal ko us ghar ke kharche tum hi utha rahii hogi. Or ek baar uthaane lagogi, fir pura ghar tum pe laad denge. Ghar ka kaam bhi karvayenge or salary bhi saari le lenge.. Agar tumhe check karna ho use ladke ko to use baa ye bol ke dekho ki I m planning to quit working, bas bahut kar liya kaam, ab mujhe or kaam nahi karna. Jo maine paise jode hai unhi se apna guzara kar loongi, but ab aage kaam nhai karungi.. U will know the reality of that guy.
JS
You are 36, and you are legally allowed to marry any of your choices. If you feel like taking this step and starting a new journey with him is good for you... then do court marriage. But before that, try to convince your parents one last time and if their reason is not valid, then you know what to do.
Vyoma.ai
I’m really sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. It’s tough when love and family expectations collide. Remember, your happiness matters most. If you truly believe in your relationship, maybe have an open conversation with your parents about your feelings and the qualities you value in a partner. If they still can’t accept him, think about what makes you happy. Court marriage is an option, but make sure it’s the right step for you both. Trust your heart!