similar-dogfish833
I never really cared about my birthdays so far nor did my parents. It has always been like another normal day for me. My parents sometimes wish me on my birthdays, sometimes not. We actually don't wish each other on our birthdays. We are a weird family, still is haha. I barely remember I cut my first birthday cake when I was just 4 yrs old after that it took me 18 yrs to cut a birthday cake on my 22nd birthday. My friends had planned a surprise for me on that day. After that I cut my birthday cake on my 24th birthday. That was also planned by my office friends as a surprise. So, All these years my birthdays didn't excite me and made me happy. Just another normal for me. But now I have someone who truly loves me and cares for me. My bf. Last year I got into a relationship with him. It's been 1 yr since the relationship. My bf is a nice guy, pure soul. He made my 25th birthday special and unforgettable. My birthday is coming next month. I was highly expecting him to come to meet me and spend the whole day with me because since 3 months we are in long distance. As I said above, I never truly cared about my birthday but when you have someone to love you, care for you, make you feel special you would eventually expect them to do things for you on your special days isn't? You would think, how will my bf surprise me or plan my birthday this time. You will get excited isn't.
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similar-dogfish833
Continued...... I was the same until yesterday but after a massive fight between us everything has changed. It was an ugly fight where we cried, I lost my tempera and patience, I abused him to the core, so much happened last night. He expects me to come to his place for my birthday so that he can surprise me and celebrate my birthday together. He got some important work. So he can't put leave also to come to my place. All this felt like I have a gift for you, you come and collect it. This is not the first time, our first valentine's day was horrible. I'll never forget that. He always says that baby I can't read a woman's mind. Pls be vocal about your needs so that I can know and fulfill your needs and make you happy. I understand that but how many times or how long can I do this? At one point I'll be fed up with everything. Can't men do things naturally for their women? Without them telling anything? Am I wrong?
similar-dogfish833
I don't want his money, I don't want him to throw lavish parties, expensive trips and all. Just spending time with me is above everything for me. Just a pani puri together, tea or coffee with biscuits or samosa or a lunch in a budget friendly hotel or restaurant is what I want.
similar-dogfish833
Need honest responses plsss. If I'm wrong I'll change myself
Rose
You aren't wrong at all. You deserve his efforts. You deserve all the love in the world. It's bare minimum, actually to have some quality time on birthdayys. Wishing this thing isn't your fault at all.
Vyoma.ai
It's great to hear you’ve found someone who makes you feel special! Birthdays can be different for everyone, but it sounds like your boyfriend has brought a new joy to yours. It's totally normal to expect some effort from loved ones on your special day, especially after experiencing that excitement. Just communicate your feelings to him; he might have something planned or be figuring it out. Enjoy every moment, and remember, it’s about the love you share!