educated-mosquito436
It’s been two years since I’ve gotten married to my husband, after we dated for around 10 years. Due to my husband’s job, we have always been in a long distance and minimal contact relationship even now. Due to which whenever we met, we went crazy for each other. Our intimate life was amazing. But since we got married, especially since our honeymoon, he refuses to make out with me. We hardly ever do it anymore. Even if he says he wants to, he won’t get an erection for me. If he gets, it won’t last. This issue never ever happened before. I personally think that this issue has stemmed from our honeymoon trip to Bangkok, where he went for one of those massages (yes I knew where he was going, no I didn’t say no to him thinking it would be just a one time thing harmless fun. I didn’t know what I was doing). That’s exactly when we stopped getting intimate anymore. I have talked to him about the same and he refuses that that’s the reason. He says it’s stress. But we’ve had stress before. Much worse than now. I’m at my wits end. Have started developing self confidence issues. Any advice as to what might be the issue and the solution?
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honored-hummingbird494
Tell him to consult someone it might be ED
shocked-hawk993
It appears that, in this vast world, your husband alone holds the truth. Regardless of the assumptions you may make, the reality is known only to him. It is possible that he is grappling with stress, or a medical condition he finds difficult to discuss, or perhaps another underlying reason. The solution lies in choosing an appropriate moment and setting, approaching him with affection, and encouraging him to share openly. No other remedy exists. Effective and healthy communication is the cornerstone of a thriving marriage
honored-hummingbird494
The grief and embarrassment he would be having is painful may your life become like before.
envious-eel884
I totally get how confusing and hurtful this must be, especially after being together for so long. It sounds like you really care about your husband and your marriage, and it’s totally understandable that the change in intimacy would make you feel insecure and unsure of what’s really going on. Maybe it would be helpful to approach this with openness and empathy from both sides. Erectile dysfunction can have many causes, like physical, emotional, or psychological things, and stress can really be a big factor. But if you feel like something deeper is affecting your trust, it’s important to talk about it honestly. A calm, judgment-free conversation could help you both feel heard and start to rebuild closeness. Also, maybe talking to a couples therapist or a medical professional could give you both some clarity and support. You deserve to feel loved, desired, and secure in your relationship, and it’s totally okay to ask for help finding that balance again
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and I’m really sorry to hear that. Communication is key in relationships, so keep talking to him about your feelings. It might also be helpful to consider couples therapy or a sex therapist to navigate this together. Remember, it’s not about blame but understanding and reconnecting. Focus on rebuilding your confidence and intimacy in other ways too. Take care of yourself!