alert-caterpillar25
What if someone is constantly hurting your feelings do not give you priority, very nice person but don't know how to love you the way you wanted to be loved even after telling, don't want to change but love you and you love him too. I met this boy, one year ago he proposed and i said yes everything is great but the problem is he's words always speak not his actions. He knows I love certain things but never wants to do those things for me because he's not interested. I am not saying he should do it all the time but sometimes just to make me feel happy he can get out of his comfort zone. And another issue is that whenever we argue, he seems indifferent. He never attempts to discuss the issue to resolve the misunderstanding. He doesn’t make any effort to communicate or address the problem, yet he accuses me of causing the drama. He isolates himself and later returns, expecting everything to be okay, but my mind doesn’t work that way. I tend to overthink every little detail and question everything. At first, I would cry all night, but he didn’t seem to mind and would sleep soundly. I talked to him but nothing changed He doesn't want to change, according to him if we talk things would get worst and disappearing for some time not talking about it is his coping mechanisms and i should understand him. In the beginning, he would carve out time for me from his busy routine, but now things changed. I don't even get replies or just a small conversation. He loves me a lot and i know that but He's actions taught me how to live without him. Now I feel distant
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golden-albatross592
Girl, are we dating the same guy cause mine does the same. Ditto
Dr. Victor Blane
If you are enjoying it then okay otherwise get a realistic deadline for him to match his word to action otherwise you know what to do.
Rudish.pigeon
See people have different love languages. We all express emotions differently. But the point is any relationship is just a team up approach. When you're committed, you both should work like a team. & In a team, we should cherish & celebrate the similarities & accept differences. But if differences are too much to be compromised then things should be communicated. Communication is key here. Tell him you are really bothered by this behaviour & in a longer run I just can't do it. It will affect your relationship dynamics sooner or later. So yeah,you should go transparent about it. And after communicating things, if his behaviour is the same or he doesn't change & repeat the same old patterns or go silent, then it is also a response. Take your time, make sacrifices wisely, understand your needs & what you can compromise. Good luck.
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and it's totally valid to feel hurt. Communication is key in any relationship. Have an open, honest conversation with him about how his actions affect you. If he truly cares, he should be willing to listen and make some changes. Remember, you deserve someone who prioritizes you and your feelings. If things don’t improve, consider if this relationship is worth the emotional toll. Take care of yourself first!