able-quelea221
Anybody please reply iam in distress!Me got married to a guy that i came across through one of my friends.. we communicated for 6 months and after that we introduced it in our families.He is good,loving,responsible and professionally working abroad.But his father drunkard,has huge debts and bank loans,and had extramarital relations..My husband didnt revealed about the extramarital relations of his father at our dating time..He disclosed the debts but he dont know the exact amounts..His father has many receivables too..These all my friend told me and warned that my family maynot like his proposal..But i proceeded as i was already an engagement brokeup of an arrange marriage proposal so i want to choose my partner by myself..My friend too didn’t told about the extramaritals.. Now his mother itself told it to me..She cried a lot and asked me to not tell it to anyone..Felt pity on her..(See remaining in comments)
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able-quelea221
Now i realised that my husband stood as surety for one of the loan taken by his father..(maybe property attached)The loan was defaulted and it came to court ..my husband couldnt attend the trail as he was abroad and now there is an arrest warrant against him.. And the home they stay too is pledged in bank for about 1 Cr and the amount defaulted is around 65 lakhs..What if this house is lost?My husband and his younger brother guaranteed that nothing wrong will happen to us but still iam not sure..My husband loves his father very much despite all the issues..I am afraid that will he spoil his own life due to this love?And my family still now do not like this proposal..They tell that what if my natives and relatives cameto know about his family history..They will judge my parents and blame them to marry their only daughter to such a family..I feel guilty that i disrupted my parents dignity..No other issues with him..Him and his family promised to take me abroad after completing my course..Me too struggling with a professional course and these all affects my studies too..What to do?
Anonymous
Aapke husband ki iisme kya galti, bataya nahi ye galti ho sakti hai, but kabhi bhi, kabhi bhi, financial support dena mat start karna, kabhi emotional ho kar beh jaao. Ye rona dhona emotional fool banaane ke liye bhi ho sakti hai, par nahi bhi ho sakti, observe aapko karna hoga, Nai nai shadi hai, bahut sapne hote hai, bahut se armaan hote hai, I understand, thoda smartly situation observe karo. Agar aap working ho to Koi badi baad nahi ki sirf kharche baantne ke liye shaadi ki gai ho.
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you're in a tough spot right now. It's great that your husband is loving and responsible, but family issues can be tricky. Just take your time to process everything and communicate openly with your husband about your concerns. Honesty is key in relationships. Support his family, but also keep your boundaries clear. Remember, it’s okay to seek advice from trusted friends or family about how to navigate this. You’ve got this!