complex-ant392
I married my wife in 2023 , it's a long story but i really need your help , I am an officer in central government, I never wanted to get married but my family insist and blackmail me to die if I don't do it , so I asked them to find a girl who is working but may be they didn't find a good match , later on they found a girl through mutual connection who is not working n in the first meeting they finalize the rishta , I later came to know about it , the dowry amount was fixed 21 lakhs ,car , gold jewelry for my whole family members and household items. After that my family pressurize me to get married to this girl otherwise her family will file a case against me , I got engaged in a ceremony to her , without even talking to her ,It all goes on through months but I never contacted her because I was saying to my parents that end this rishta , but they didn't they forcefully got me married to this girl , one important thing they hid my real age from her family , I am 11 years older to him but they said I am 5 , the day I got married , in the evening I left her alone at the house.
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complex-ant392
I never liked to get physical with her , it suffocates me , I gave her so many reasons to her , that I want to become monk , I am into celibacy n what not , but she didn't left she said may be things will be fine one day , I got transferred to different place and her family is asking me to shift with her even dr. Then did medical test n in that impotency is detected, panchayat done to solve this matter but she didn't leave me , because she fear that her family will file false cause against me n my life will be spoiled , she came to me last year at my job place , I was little bit fine n she got pregnant, I don't like this thing n left her alone in that condition, now she gave birth to my kid , I met her after 1.5 months don't know why , now she wants to leave me and want Divorce as she said she can't handle me anymore , I spoiled her life . What should I do now
complex-ant392
Adding to this , I always priorities my brother's family over her , I gave them the house which was jointly ours n when she ask i don't like her involvement in our these matters , she also asked me to live at his brothers place till I get settled but she denied , her relationship with my family is gotten worst because she think they used her n gave everything to my brother, I never give her a single penny by myself
Everlasting-Soul
What do you want in life, you want her or you want to leave? After having a child don't look back, continue family. Family issues, you sort it out and make her comfortable. In her point of view I think you are remaining with nothing after giving everything to your brother. You are at loss that means she is at loss and don't like that even you gave it to your own brother. Have 50-50 not unequally.
sentimental-raven120
Bro who are you lying to ? Admin please check this.
Hello2
Leave her and give her the money in the alimony and other settlements .. you did bad to her .. you should have file for divorce after the marrige and part your ways peacefully but you did not do that .. if you get married in presure leave the partner after it don't spoil the partner life kyuki aap shadi ko apne partner ke expectations ko pura nhi kar paoge ya efforts nhi daloge utne ... And the brother thing she is right she is family husband and wife are each other first family and she is looking for secure future and financial stability with you .. and you left her like this even in pregnancy and delivery that badd .. you know what you did you are a grown up man an adult still you hurted her like this ... And she tried to be with you ... Please leave her and give her what she demands ... Please don't be bad to her more .. you should divorce her or not get married in the first place you are a grown up still you did this ..this is wrong .. parents presure mein ho gyi shadi toh aage divorce lo or nhi lena toh efforts karo or sahi se raho yeh nhi khud bhi struggle kar rhe ho orr samne wala ko bhi karwa rahe hoo ...and I think the lady your wife is also here
odd-armadillo200
If your wife is a good person and she loves you as well as both of you get along well then stay with her. What your family did is sell you to the girl's family. So technically you now belong to the girl family. If you guys don't get along and want to separate then go for divorce but make sure you return all the things you got in marriage. But if the girl's family is dominant and has a threat to you or your family legally or illegally then think on all the available safe options.
odd-armadillo200
If your wife is a good person and she loves you as well as both of you get along well then stay with her. What your family did is sell you to the girl's family. So technically you now belong to the girl family. If you guys don't get along and want to separate then go for divorce but make sure you return all the things you got in marriage. But if the girl's family is dominant and has a threat to you or your family legally or illegally then think on all the available safe options.
Anonymous
Pata nahi humaare yahan ke parents kab bade honge, forceful marriage or dowry bhi, 🥺. Upper wala u he sadbudhi de. Na jaane kitni zindagiyaan kharaab ho rahii hai aise maa baap ke laalach me.
Anonymous
Bhaiya tum maano ya na maano. 1. Tumhaari family ne or tumne mil ke ladki ki life kharaab ki hai. Bacha kaise ho jaata hai bina pyaar ke, samajh nahi aata. Loota hai ladki waalo ko. Us ladki ne ek thappad maara hota na pehle hi din tab better hota, wo bechari tumhara wait karti rahi, tumhari har galti pe parda daalti rahii, impotent ho ye jaanne ke baad bhi usne tumko nahi cchoda. Tum aadmi ho ya bodum.
shy-hyena919
Sometimes we need to take responsibility for our actions and make a decision while keeping the other person's feelings in mind. Even if you didn't want to get married and live your life with her, you can still choose to give her and your child, a beautiful life by taking a decision to be with her and make her happy. If you collect yourself to love her and your child, you may have a wonderful family.
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation, and I’m sorry to hear that you feel trapped. Communication is key here—consider talking to someone you trust about your feelings, or seeking professional help to sort through this. Your happiness matters, and it’s important to address this situation thoughtfully. Remember, it’s never too late to seek a resolution that respects both you and your wife. Take care of yourself!