Impure heart
I had gone through very tough phase of my life where im feeling very much guilty as my husband loves me so much but still I behave weired. I had to behave according to my family member. I was continuous on work and had exertion almost 15 days. I know it's was my duty but I feel so tired emotionally and physically. Everyone in family throws their expectations on me. I'm not so old married so I have no much experience of handling too many people alone. I feel so much frustrated as my opinion didn't considered by anyone or all the family members decided for me without my consent. I feel like I'm living in cage and I already have anxiety issue. I was literally felt much suffocated inside. I'm living like this since 2 years and I felt now I cant tolerate this marriage so told my husband that I don't want to live here and I can't live. I feel suffocated and taking for granted by others and so many things and cried alot. He loves me he didn't want to lose me. He also cried and scared of losing me. But I had no other option left due to family members. He convinced me to stay but later I realized I did bad to my husband and I'm living in much guilt. He contacted my aunt too when I told him that I don't want to live and will not come back. I came to know it later and then my guilt was at peak.
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Ndthmkijb
You r not wrong… don’t feel guilty if u want to live a happy n peaceful life … live separately with your husband … as it’s been 2 years for ur marriage… set boundaries from now on.. don’t overdo… it’s not your job to make everyone happy n satisfied… always remember that … your first priority should be you n your husband 👍
Impure heart
I got a loving husband and what I said to him but I was in that feeling that I can't handle these people in future as there is lot of adjustment only for me in this family. Everyone felt angry or I get taunts if things didn't went as per their expectations. I struggled and later I came on this conclusion that I can't survive so I told him. I feel much much guilt in my mind why I do this to him
Sreenidhi Nair
From your story, it is clear that 1. You are taking care of a lot of people. 2. You are exhausted because of this. 3. You feel guilty for telling that you can't do it anymore. It is absolutely okay, 1. To say NO when you want. 2. To not fullfill all the expectations from everyone around you. 3. To take a decision to help yourselves. 4. To take care of your own mental and physical health. It is great to know that, you have talked to your husband regarding this and he is supporting you. Feel free to take care of your own needs first and then others. Take care!
Jay 1
You are not wrong mam you tried your best to deal with everything don't feel bad and guilty .. he should try to be a grown up and take your stand and prioritize you ...but he stayed silent just to avoid argument major people do this as they don't want to be the bad kids .as parents feels speaking or not agreeing with them is bad trait .. and this is totally wrong ... You tried your best but things were getting worse and worse .. and you are right if this continue till now it will happen more in future
Ms. Unknown.dreamy
Hyee dear. Everything is gonna be alright. Try to talk to your husband openly tell him how you are feeling right now and you don't want to loose him at the same time things make you frustrated. Just try to protect yours and your husband's happiness. Just take care of your in-laws and Don't bother about this relatives just give if things are possible if not don't worry. Let them talk whatever they want. The end of the day you and your husband should be happy together. Protect your peace don't let relatives break your relationship. Getting a man like him is difficult i guess he cried for you and he genuinely loves. Many women's didn't get husband like yours. Protect it before losing.
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you're going through an incredibly tough time, and feeling overwhelmed is completely valid. It's important to prioritize your mental health; take a step back, breathe, and consider talking to a therapist about your feelings. Communication with your husband is key; share your struggles and let him support you. Remember, it's okay to set boundaries with family. You're not alone in this. Be kind to yourself!