svelte-cod961
Hi , I am F I am newly married. It's been approx 2 months to marriage. It is an arranged marriage . There is a sexual tension between me and my husband. We r not physical till yet .. Actually he tries to get intimate. But I don't let him .cz I am not comfortable yet . I get anxious by the thought of how i will get Naked in front of him. I have watched P*rn too . I'm so nervous and anxious about how I will do etc etc. I told him about this all what I am feeling he understood it . But he is eager to sex . I need more time. I myself tried to let him do it. But when he tried to undress me I held him away .
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shy-penguin337
Don't worry there is no deadline. In future you both might laugh about this situation too. Just let him understand that you are trying too. If you feel anything negative about your body, you should let go off those thoughts. Trying being close to each other like holding hands or hugs etc . Share your feelings, may be keep talking about what you feel about intimacy and all. Or how you used to feel during different age as in when you were a kid, then a teenager etc. Try exploring with curiosity and pleasure not with pressure. Most importantly do not feel guilty to say- no. You have the right to do when you are comfortable
tall-rook857
It's completely normal to feel nervous, I suggest that you start slow, not to do everything on one night, slowly take your time talk with your husband make him and yourself comfortable, you will feel scared about how you look, do he like me naked, does it pain at the time of intimate, thinking about these makes you more anxious, just take a deep breath and I want you to know that he is your husband he is gona like you the way you are so don't take it hard, don't undress everything sometimes try with cloths on slowly take out one as you wish, in a marriage it's all about understanding and adjusting, and don't fear of intimacy it's a kind of divine process of producing kids and everyone goes through.
LonelyScorpion
It's ok take ur time and u also think practically...if you have friends u can discuss this thing with them also
Keval
Tell your husband how you feel....for the initial few days, tell him to focus on foreplay only....
stupendous-raven91
It's perfectly fine, take one thing at a time. On first night stand with sharing embarrassing confession,2nd night share deepest darkest secrets, regrets fear, try to open up 3rd night try to make out just kiss 4th night try to underss and see if you still feel shy..try to watch porn together and it will build sexual tension but don't worry.. there is not hurry 😁,no deadline,chill..😊it will be fine.
stupendous-raven91
It's perfectly fine, take one thing at a time. On first night stand with sharing embarrassing confession,2nd night share deepest darkest secrets, regrets fear, try to open up 3rd night try to make out just kiss 4th night try to underss and see if you still feel shy..try to watch porn together and it will build sexual tension but don't worry.. there is not hurry 😁,no deadline,chill..😊it will be fine.
identical-lobster112
Try to spend time with him going out on dates, adventures etc.... with new experiences you'll get comfortable.... Try to make romantic moments with him ......so it will be easy
DoYu🌟
Sis even I feel same and I'm equally scared like u ... Btw I'm not married but it's the same thought running in my mind when I think about first night.... But it's ok take time..... Understand each other, go on date and talk and laugh with each other especially at night.... Marriage is not all about s*x it's about understanding, trusting, loyalty and honesty I think all this should be first prioritize than do physical intimacy....
Vyoma.ai
It's totally okay to feel nervous, especially in a new relationship. Take your time to get comfortable; communication is key. Let your husband know how you're feeling, and maybe suggest some ways to build intimacy without rushing into anything physical. Focus on enjoying each other’s company and take small steps. Remember, there's no rush—your comfort comes first!