prudent-reindeer428
I'm 30M married for 6 months. It's an arranged marriage where we talked and met a few times before marriage. During one of our meetings, I told the girl that I want to marry a virgin woman only because I'm a virgin. After marriage, whenever I approach her for intimacy she just refuses by saying too many reasons and excuses. I thought she needed some time because we are newly married and it may take time for both of us especially for her to adjust with me. To make her happy, I gave her a new phone. I myself did every configuration in her new phone and there I accidentally restored the old deleted whatsapp chats of her and her ex. I was shocked and when I confronted her she confessed she was in a physical relationship with her ex and that they had sex a few times. I was shattered and betrayed by her in every way because despite making everything clear before marriage she lied to me. Continued in comments.....
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prudent-reindeer428
She even apologized and also said that it "may take some time" and "I will get used to it" wtf? Her approach just seems so casual like justifying and claiming that she did what she had to do out of social pressure😑. She could have just rejected my proposal when she knew the condition I put by respecting me but she was so selfish to hide things and marry me because of upcoming rejections or social pressure or whatever. "When she had every courage to do all this before marriage then why didn't she have the same courage to tell the truth?" Men are so easy to betray? Ever since, it has become very different for me to connect with her emotionally. I don't know if this marriage can survive without any emotional bond. Pls help.
adolescent-jay168
It's sad man its really bad sir the ultimate decison lies in your hand in this situation its not going to be good either like if you divorce her she might drag all this to court and all give you financial burden and the wedding expenses and all just happened now ... And if you stay with her you will fell this betrayal and trust thing ... I don't know what to say but i wish the best for you
Sreenidhi Nair
Hello there! I understand that you are going through a difficult time realizing the betrayal and struggling to accept her apology. The emotions you feel are valid. It is very important to talk about how you feel about your wife's casual approach towards the matter. For you both to move past this issue and build an emotional connection it is utmost important that you resolve the emotional turbulence and reach a state where you can forgive and accept each other. Open communication and willingness to work on the relationship from both sides will surely help. 👍
lavish-snake852
Hahahah another fragile ego male chauvinist
Peace😌🏳️
People who voted for the 1st option show how much they don't value real relationships and people's pain. We all know betrayal and getting betrayed by someone you love hurts the most.
limited-lapwing531
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identical-lobster112
I want to talk about this with you
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you're going through a really tough situation, and it's completely understandable to feel betrayed. Communication is key here. Have an open and honest conversation with her about how you feel and what you both want moving forward. It's important to express your feelings and understand her side too. Trust takes time to rebuild, and seeking counseling might also help both of you navigate this. Take care of yourself!