shallow-fox262
48M, Going to get divorce after 15 years of heartbreak. I got married at 29, had a daughter at 30 now she is 18 studying in a college. I work as a project manager in the IT industry with good pay. The person I have been married to cheated on me 15 yrs ago with her colleague. I caught her with evidence at that time, she cried, fell on my feet and begged for forgiveness and she tried everything she could to rebuild the trust but heartbroken me never gave her a chance just mentally, emotionally and physically I left the marriage the moment I caught her. I didn't get angry with her nor confront her, Instead I accepted the reality with a heavy heart. I gave her everything she ever asked for but......I would have divorced her but my daughter's future just flashed in front of my eyes so I decided not to go for a divorce until she is grown up. With a broken heart with a lot of insecurities and unanswered questions in my mind I just silenced myself and totally withdrew myself from my marriage. Ever since, I have totally invested myself in my career and my daughter.
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shallow-fox262
My daughter was just 4 yrs old when this all happened. The woman who destroyed me tried her best to reconcile with me, approach me talk to me, rebuild trust and whatever that could be done to save this marriage but we can't fix a broken glass right. I stopped talking to her ever since then. Once I told her that you can have more and more affairs if you want to, If your genitals are itching that much. She broke into tears and begged for forgiveness. I never told my daughter about why me and the woman who destroyed my life were not talking because it could affect her too. I was hiding all this from my daughter just to make sure she doesn't get affected by all this. I took good care of my daughter. I cooked her favourite food etc I have become a mom to her despite being a dad. My daughter focused on her studies and got good grades in academics and is now pursuing college. I opened up about what her mom did to me a year ago and she was sad and upset too. My daughter had been talking to her mom but when I told her the truth she eventually stopped talking to her. She has seen and understood what I have gone through all these 15 years. My intentions were not to separate her and her mom but it was my daughter's choice. I'm going to remarry a divorced woman in 6 months who endured all kinds of abuse and cheating from her ex husband. I'm so happy now. My daughter is very happy for me getting married and starting a new journey with my future wife. I never forgave my wife till now and probably not in this lifetime.
true-raven380
Bro I love you ❤️❤️ apna dhyan rkho aur khush rho life me apni new family ke sath time spend karo but dimag me apne past ko rkho ki aurton se wafadi achhi baat nhi hai but reality ko to accept karna padta hai ek ladka apni life me kitna sacrify karta hai kis mental condition se gujarta hai ye uske alawa koi aur nhi jaan sakta
Desi_gyaani
What a man u r brother....salute you are rare👏👏
shallow-fox262
What the best gift you can give to cheaters as revenge is living with them in the same house, not talking to them at all. Focusing on your life, when the right time comes, divorce them. The woman who cheated on me has suffered all these 15 yrs. Left alone, Crying, guilt, regret, remorse everything. She had been left alone while living in the same house.
Distracted_CA
A example for the society where a women cheats (a.k.a his wife)and men again takes a stand for women( a.k.a his daughter) .. the real example of patience , trust that he can do anything for his daughter and respected his maturity until hid daughter achieved adult age. We all appreciate him for his efforts for his daughter but the torture which he may have beared these many years, the cry we haven’t seen or his daughter, the cuts on his heart that his wife haven’t seen, salute to u my brother.. I may be too small to say there for u but can learn a lot from this real incident that, god has given lot of hurdles in our life but if our aim is not disturbed,even god cant stop us from achieving the success Am happy that ur giving another chance to yourself, ur daughter and an women who also went through the same path.. Wish u all the best for ur future, ur daughter’s future and for having a best life❤️💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
shallow-fox262
I think my comment section is filled with men. Men supporting men. This shows another gender's ignorance when men cry.
eroslover
My mother went through similar stuff sir. You dealt it really well my mom made the same decision for us. There is nothing to be insecured about it wasn't your fault you're wife made the choice when she got the option.Your daughter would be proud of you when she realizes everything. I wish you more strength, peace and happiness sir.
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you’ve been carrying a heavy burden for so long. It's commendable that you prioritized your daughter's future, but remember, your happiness matters too. As you move toward divorce, focus on healing and rediscovering yourself. Maybe seek support from friends or a professional to process everything. Take it one step at a time, and don't forget to prioritize your own well-being along with your daughter's. You've done your best, now it's time to look forward!