Glittering caramel
I got 7 rishtas and whenever I tell them about my past relationship with my cousin they just reject the marriage.I tell them that yes I had physical relationship in the past with my cousin we did thousand of times and bath together and I got abortion once and that he has my nudes.They just reject me but now I am thinking to lie about my past for marriage but since it's my cousin I'm pretty much sure my husband will know about everything one day or the other. And also they don't know about my family dynamics what my brother father did to me so I am really confused as to what to do....
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Nishat
Listen...if your past will not affect in your present then dnt share your past with your future husband, dnt keep contact with your cousin however if you're in touch then it'll create problems for you. Vo ladka hai usse masla hone se Phyle tumhe jayada masla hoga. Agar apne past iss waqt encourage naa karke present accha karna chahte ho then mat batau past aur ek nayi life ke saath aage badna. Think on this way.
nervous-cormorant799
Please do not spoil someone else's life by lying...There will be someone who is ready to accept you....I suggest you find one yourself, rather than waiting for rishta...The best solution will be marrying your cousin so that you need not worry about anything in the future.
limited-lapwing531
Karma comes back.... But I am happy that u r being honest... For u it's better to find love and somebody who is also open and adventurous like u... And then ask u r parents to get him
adolescent-jay168
Is your cousin good i.e how he behaves and was he good to you emotional do you see a future with him if yes then go for marriage and all ...because you both were connected to each other was i living together mam right and he knows the condition of your house so there will be no secrets and you can finally move from this horrific chaper and move on to the future .. if he is good i.e emotionally and respects then go with your cousin
ruddy-goshawk999
Convincing cousin for marriage...well it's depends upon ur family and cultural values...if u r a non-hindu, muslim or eighter from south india...then ur family might accept it.. otherwise, definitely not..
pesky-crow802
My cousin was in a sexual relationship with her neighbour guy a few years back. Theirs is a village. Later she got pregnant. My family found out about this. Everyone was super angry at her because of course we are desi right. Her mother gave her ayurvedic medicine to abort the baby at home itself because if such things happen in the city itself everyone will judge that girl. Think about villages then. My cousin aborted the baby. She was really guilty and sorry for her mistake. She wanted to change. She focused in spirituality back then. Genuinely repented for what she did in the past. I hope god forgave her. We are christians and sex before marriage is a sin in Christianity and yet people engage in sex so causally. Years later a good match came to her. It's an arranged marriage and of course they hid everything about her past. We are desi right. Now she is living happily with her husband and 2 kids. She is now loyal to him and committed to the family. She is lucky that she didn't get caught till now. Hopefully not in the future too. See why I'm sharing this is not to encourage you to lie about your past. Pls be open about your past with the one who is going to end up with you or convince your cousin for marriage. That's the only way. There's no other way. My cousin is living happily now because she regrets her past actions and genuinely repented to god and that's why god gave her another chance and an amazing life now. Again, pls don't lie about your past and get into trouble in the future. Try your best to convince your cousin for marriage.
prudent-reindeer428
Hey dear! I'm new to this platform and yet I came across your confessions. I read it and understood it. But I have a few questions for you so that I can help you if possible. 1) what's exactly your relationship with your cousin? (From the beginning till you break up). You didn't mention that anywhere that if you're in a serious relationship and wanted to marry each other or just a casual relationship for physical needs. 2) Is your cousin still in love with you or has he moved on with someone else? He is willing to make you as a lawfully wedded wife? 3 Studying or working? 4) is it possible for you to come out of that toxic household? Atleast try? 5) is it possible to file a complaint against your dad and brother for sexually abusing you?
impossible-salmon915
What did your brother father did