Life_goes_on
Please give suggestion if possible. I had lived in a joint family setup sort of thing since childhood. My house is divided amongst my father and his uncle. My paternal aunts also live there. But our kitchen is different. I am the only child of my parents and due to job I stay far away from my family. Since few months I noticed my mother behaviour is changing, she has lost weight, is mostly superactive or emotional. Recently I found out my relatives all of them cornor my mother usually make fun of her in small things. But a week age my aunts had a fight with my mom over a very small thing, humilated her and stopped talking to her. However all of my relatives have ganged up and indirectly taunts my mother. One of my aunt said she is mentally unstable. My father is good but never speak in favour of my mother knowing that they are wrong. He never takes stand and never will it is his nature he run away from fight or arguement.
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shy-penguin337
Harsh realities. It is mostly the people who are nice that are always made fun of, humiliated, dominated. I understand that the current dynamics won't allow to get separated. But sometimes you have to take that step. Staying apart is better than to suffer from living together. Like one of the users @dangerous ibis suggested, you can atleast take her to stay with you for a few days. A little relief can also give her some strength. Please take care of your mom. Also advise to get basic health check ups done as you have mentioned that your mother has lost some weight suddenly.
LEELA KULKARNI
Hey, as a daughter your concern is very much valid. You need to sit with your mom and talk to her about her feelings and any underlying pain she is going through . Ask her to express her feelings, maybe by journaling , it may help her to manage and also talk to her regularly and make her aware of her strengths , check whether she is feeling lonely or missing you or your father . Try taking some time to listen to her, which will eventually help you to make few decisions.
Life_goes_on
My mom is suffering too much yet nothing has changed. All of them ignore her and make fun of her behind her back. She is the nicest and kindnest person I have ever come across but she has to deal with this.Literally no one talks with her and every evening sits togther and mock. I could not leave my job as I am fresher and financially support my father. Since my father is also in job my mother could not come and stay with me. We are not so rich to afford to buy another house. That was our own house but people treat her so bad. We cannot seperate it also as house is designed that way. Neither my father will agree to go to rented place. This situation is breaking me from within. Everyday I call my mom mostly but she is so hurt. She never say bad about them but her voice tells how she is feeling. I try my best to comfort her but yet again someone taunts them. I am clueless how to take my mother out of this situation.