waterlogged-chicken111
F29, I got married a year ago in an arranged marriage. My husband is everything a woman wants in a man. We have a 2 yr old adopted daughter. Before marriage, I had a 6 yr relationship and was sexually active from the age 21-26. My ex never used protection and directly puts it inside me. I had to take i-pills at that time without knowing the long term consequences. I lied to my husband about having a bf in the past. After marriage, when we repeatedly tried to conceive, we didn't end up getting positive results. We consulted a gynaecologist and there I was diagnosed with a huge ovarian cyst. The doctor said we have very less chances to conceive. I had to lie to the doctor also when she asked me if I had taken any oral contraception because my husband was sitting next to me. We both were shattered into pieces after listening to what the doctor said. Deep down I know that I ended up in this pathetic situation due to the continuous usage of i-pills for almost 5 years. My husband is a very nice guy. He also insisted that we can adopt a baby. A few months later, we adopted a baby girl when she was just 11 months old. I've been cursing my ex in every way possible. But I'm living in constant fear since the day I got married. What if my husband finds out about my past. Should I go and tell him the truth or bury it completely?
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Sad panda
You should tell him.Your whole marriage is based on a lie.
Dr. Victor Blane
Waterlogged, 21-26 is significant age knowing the consequences of pills you choose to ignore you and your bf both are equally responsible. Your poor husband who did nothing wrong is now suffering i think he deserve to know the truth.
zany-gorilla169
Well mam. Do not curse your ex coz isme dono ki galti h ap dono hi involve the physical relation me. Pls tell honestly your gynaecologist all the truth bcz this cyst could harm you a lot in the future. N pls don’t tell anything to your hus coz it will shatter him to the roots n also your relation will also get affected. Shadi se pehle hi bta dena chahiye tha sb kuch apko
Unknown warrior 🪖
Your karma will come to you with interest..... U have cheated your husband... Ooo Almighty give strength to that guy....💐
ecstatic-hornet633
Ma'am why you don't tell him about your past. You also spoil a good man's life.you are enjoying your life previously and settle down now for a good man.see you don't concive after knowing he helps you and adapt a baby girl.and you doing . Please tell your husband about your situation yes it possible he will angry on you . Most probably। Want to divorce you.you have to faced it because you doing bad with him.and if he forgive you please stay with him and don't felt in affairs.stay happy God bless you
ecstatic-hornet633
And I don't know who break up you or your ex
imperfect-chamois67
Firstly don't pin the blame on your ex alone, you are also equally to be blamed for the actions that both of have done. Admitting that you are wrong is a step to accepting your mistake. You should have told him before your marriage about your past. Like someone has said in the comment, your marriage is based on a Lie. And to cover the Lie, you have to come up with another lie and this goes on and on. Those lies have come back and it is now the greatest threat to both of you. Please tell your husband as soon as possible. Secrets are meant to keep away for some time but truth cannot be hidden forever. They are bound to resurface one day. Be forthcoming to your doctor as well, they are treating you based on what you say. Later you might have health complications because you hid your medical history. The sooner the doctor know they can you the proper treatment. And lastly It's best Your Husband hears from You (his wife) instead of discovery or hearing from someone or somewhere. He will be deeply devastated (as a man I can imagine) but I hope he takes his time, forgives and accepts you. I wish you well 😊
bumpy-weasel629
When you have all the guts and courage to do everything before marriage. Why don't you show the same courage/guts to be honest with the one you're going to marry?
Sunflower🌻
Now forget the past. You have a daughter and lovable husband, If u spit the past,you too know what will be the consequences.. I know the advice I'm giving is wrong but to save the relationship and family im saying all this
anxious-mole953
Bury it .also forgive and forget ur past. Live in present.. be positive. May be one day you will conceive naturally. Keep good health. Lobe ur adopted daughter unconditionally. God will bless u soon
bumpy-weasel629
Guys pls dislike Ms/Mrs Anxious mole's comment. She is misleading others.
bumpy-weasel629
All the randees come to support another randee under the comnts.
notable-goldfish905
That's the perfect example how rndi destroy innocent men life
notable-goldfish905
hope your husband got to know everything about your so called fault
notable-goldfish905
and show your character in front of your father and throw you from his house
notable-goldfish905
Don't worry you will face karna with intrest
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reliable-moose636
Bury it. Dnt create a mess of ur life. What happened is done now n u cannot make it right. So fuck it. Enjoy ur current lives
naveen kanagasabapathi
bury it completely
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you’re carrying a heavy emotional load right now. It’s understandable to feel conflicted about your past, especially when it involves your health and relationship. Honesty is important in a marriage, but timing and approach matter too. If you believe that sharing your past can strengthen your bond, consider having an open conversation when you feel ready. Remember, your husband loves you for who you are now, and it’s okay to be vulnerable. Take care of your mental health too, and maybe speak to a therapist about your feelings. You’ve got this!