bumpy-weasel629
I met a girl through arranged marriage. We met a few times and discussed very important things. I mentioned very clearly that she is gonna be my first and last woman in my life if everything goes well between us. I also mentioned that I'm a virgin. I wanted to marry a virgin woman only. I asked if she had any relationships before. She immediately denied it. Based on her insights, I trusted her and I told my parents to proceed further. We got engaged 2 weeks ago. A day ago she shared everything about her past with me. She had a 6 yr serious relationship and was intimate multiple times with her ex. They broke up. I was furious and angry at her. I confronted her that why she didn't tell me all this when I asked about it at first. She recklessly said I thought you would reject me the moment I told you about my past. I was in total shock and still not able to digest the fact that she lied to me, broke my trust, the bitter betrayal and most importantly she literally snatched my right to take the decision while finalizing this match. How cleverly she played a mind game and acted selfish. I'm planning to stop this marriage. What should I do? Note: Pls don't come and advise me to accept her, she told you the truth, she is loyal to you. Just because she told me the truth doesn't make her loyal to me. Loyalty is shown in actions not by words.
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sentimental-raven120
Accept her.
muted-wolf414
You should
limited-lapwing531
Stop it and find a new match
blue-pheasant90
Ahhh compltely okay to stop tbh . If ure virgin then u desrv virginn…
blue-pheasant90
Ahhh compltely okay to stop tbh . If ure virgin then u desrv virginn…
grotesque-bat685
Your personal choice is important to you and not her. It was just a mind game that if u tell truth after engagement somehow u cannot cancel the marriage and stuff due to family or societal pressure. So my advice for u is sit with yourself let ur thoughts flow and if u think u cannot accept her past then break the engagement but if u think u can live with her past then proceed for marriage and trust me u r not doing anything wrong because everyone has expectations and yours is totally okay and u have been very clear about ur expectations before engagement so do whatever feels right to u because you are choosing a person who u r going to spend rest of ur life with so better get clarity early than feeling regret later
grotesque-bat685
Intimacy brings two people together and it's impossible to forget someone who u were intimate with. They leave a part of them with u and take a part of u with them so be wise before taking any decision
Distracted_CA
Ur note suggest a valid answer for ur self brother Do not wait for the peoples opinion U have mentioned ur boundaries, even though u have got engaged, call off the marriage and move further. See she may be loyal now or then, a trust when broken, cannot be stick back to normal position. If she had mentioned it earlier there could be multiple scenarios She didnt mentioned now, what if she might have silenced many truths. Decision is upto u brother. But u suggested my view.. I wish u find ur partner as u like ❤️❤️❤️❤️ All the best💪🏻
Loss makingTrader
Never ever accept her if she has hidden this from you she may have hidden more things she doesn't deserve you take a strong action
Loss makingTrader
Waiting is better in life instead of choosing wrong one
white-horse365
I think you over reacted, think one time, talk to her then take decision wisely
Sad panda
Never ever accept her.Can you imagine the things they would've done together in those 6 years.Imagine bathing together sleeping together and intimate might be a thousand times over the course of 6 years.I mean it's hard to accept these things. Reject her
bumpy-weasel629
I see no women here? Why do you become silent all of a sudden when a man cries his heart out to get justice?
bumpy-weasel629
Why does no girl want to save herself for her future husband? Is a physical relationship that important in order to survive in a relationship? When you don't know what holds in the future why get physical with that person? I'm sorry I'm just blabbering in pain. I'm very depressed.
INS_Arihant
There are so many things in life that are more important than the virgin angle in a relationship I wish I could tell you. Ladies and Gentlemen marriage is a commitment to face 1 year 3 years 5 years and 3-4 decades together. Imagine what happens in those long time frames. Love Respect and Intimacy are all very important but in my opinion you don't get them all as you perceive no way close. You have to trust your guts they are the only ones that come close. Cheers Hope this helps.
Dr. Victor Blane
You have right , you can call off this marriage.
notable-goldfish905
Bro just call off the wedding right now. show her character in front of her father.
notable-goldfish905
Bro just call off the wedding right now. show her character in front of her father.
notable-goldfish905
Never ever accept the past of any girl in the name of love
Digital_swaps
I had the same experience, my engagement was done on Feb 1, she had 2 casual affairs and was meeting and in contact before engagement also, i found about it myself and she was lying till i was able to find proofs. I broke the marriage
naveen kanagasabapathi
stop it
naveen kanagasabapathi
🥺it's not about Virgin it's about trust
Vyoma.ai
I totally get where you're coming from; trust is everything in a relationship. If you feel betrayed, it's important to prioritize your feelings. Take some time to think things through and talk to someone you trust about it. If you decide to end the engagement, do it respectfully. Remember, you deserve someone who aligns with your values and honesty is key. Trust your gut and make the decision that feels right for you.