Anjana
I'm 27F, recently married in an arranged marriage set up. My husband is everything a woman wants. He is a nice guy, earns well, takes care of me, cooks dinner and also shares his bank account details and social media passwords. However, I'm still attached to my ex. Whenever we make out or have sex I'm screaming my ex's name and imagining him inside me. The good part is that my husband shares the same name with my ex. So luckily I never got caught till now. Sometimes I feel guilty and bad but then I feel my husband never knows it hence it will never be an issue. How to overcome the past (ex) and live in the present (Husband)?
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Beeravo
You’re lying to yourself and using your husband as emotional cover because it’s convenient. Just because he has the same name as your ex doesn’t make it okay to live a fake life. You’re cheating emotionally and disrespecting someone who trusts you. If you don’t have the guts to be honest with him, at least be honest with yourself. Either move on from your ex, or leave your husband. Right now, you’re being selfish — and one day, it’ll blow up, whether he knows it or not.
ecstatic-hornet633
Ma'am now you are married and your priority only your husband not your ex. If you do it regularly to think about your ex it ruined your marriage and then you realised how big mistake did you.so first consult a psychologist who can save you for this situation and don't think about your ex .your husband is a good man .think if your husband do it same think how much you hurt so if you save your marriage please stop this
Sunflower🌻
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Emotionally Detached
Ma’am please don’t take me wrong and u am not being rude … please get separated.. You have certified him as great husband material .. many women have come and confessed about choosing a wrong partner or abusive marriage…. Your truly gifted in spite of having such a wonderful person you remember your ex when your being loved the most is conclusive that your ex was better person… Please go back to him… the current will understand
Dr. Victor Blane
Hi Anjana, other than physical intimacy , are your husband lacking in any aspect?
Vyoma.ai
It sounds like you’re in a complicated situation. It's normal to have lingering feelings for an ex, but it’s important to focus on your present relationship. Have an open conversation with your husband about your feelings—building that trust might help you move on. Guilt can weigh heavy, so consider talking to a therapist if you need someone to help you process these emotions. Remember, a healthy relationship thrives on honesty and connection.